Valentine’s Day 2012: Why guys are happy to go solo

By
Sean Poulter

Last updated at 12:10 AM on 14th February 2012

If Bridget Jones is to be believed, single women will be spending today sobbing into their pillows.

But in reality, it seems, it’s men who will be hit hardest by being alone on Valentine’s Day.

While unattached women are too busy enjoying their freedom to care about the absence of a companion on February 14, men feel lonely if there are no cards through the letterbox, according to a study.

Survey says: Far from the image of a Bridget Jones generation unlucky in love, single women appreciate being able to spend their time and money however they wish

Survey says: Far from the image of a Bridget Jones generation unlucky in love, single women appreciate being able to spend their time and money however they wish

In contrast to Bridget Jones, portrayed by Renee Zellweger above, less than a third of women say they actively dislike being alone while 70 per cent of men admit feeling this way

In contrast to Bridget Jones, portrayed by Renee Zellweger above, less than a third of women say they actively dislike being alone while 70 per cent of men admit feeling this way

And it’s bad news for bachelors as things won’t seem much brighter tomorrow – because the fairer sex are simply more likely to enjoy living the single life.

Far from the image of a Bridget Jones generation who are unhappy and unlucky in love, single women appreciate being able to spend their time and money however they wish, researchers claim.

Traditionally, women were looking for love and the security provided by a man, but women's success in the workplace has led to increasing financial independence

Traditionally, women were looking for love and the security provided by a man, but women’s success in the workplace has led to increasing financial independence

While more than half of unattached women say they are happy as they are, only 39 per cent of single men feel the same.

And less than a third of women say they actively dislike being alone, while 70 per cent of men admit feeling this way.

The figures, compiled by analysts Mintel, also reveal how relationship expectations have shifted.

Traditionally, women were looking for love and the security provided by a man who was the breadwinner.

However, women’s success in the workplace has led to increasing financial independence.

At the same time, many men still believe women should take care of house and home – and so feel ill-equipped to do it themselves when they don’t have a partner.

Alexandra Richmond, senior consumer and lifestyles analyst at Mintel, said: ‘Singles are more likely than those in couples to feel that they don’t have to justify their expenditure.

‘They buy themselves more treats and more than half have plenty of time to spend with their friends, compared to around one in three who are in a couple.

‘These singles are also exploring new
things, trying out new clubs, restaurants and activities. In  many ways,
they are living life  to the full compared to their coupled friends.

Single woman said they can buy themselves more treats and more than half have plenty of time to spend with their friends compared to around one in three who are in a couple

Single woman said they can buy themselves more treats and more than half have plenty of time to spend with their friends compared to around one in three who are in a couple

‘Of those who are single, it is women who are happiest. Many put their education and careers first, and as a result, women are more financially independent and self-sufficient than ever before.’

The researchers found that single men and women were more likely than those in couples to invest energy in their careers. Some 62 per cent said freedom was the main advantage of being unattached.

The Bridget Jones films, based on the novels by Helen Fielding, focus on the romantic ups and downs of a perpetually single woman in her 30s.

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Couple of pints of beer, play some computer games, topped off with a good w**k – most blokes’ idea of a perfect, uncomplicated day…..!

I once asked my father ‘are their any decent men around dad?’. His answer? ‘not really. Most men are selfish b’s. And that came from a man who had travelled all over the world. By the way haws one of the good guys, and yes I have met a few good ones and I know they are out there. Just few and far between and I feel sad.

Women are their own downfall. Whenever you ask them why are you single ” I’m looking for a nice honest guy”. Well open your eyes bi**h, there are loads of nice honest guys but women would never give them a chance for whatever reason…
– Mr Patel, London, 14/02/2012 06:54
…… And you’re obviously not one of those nice honest guys. You won’t get far with that misogynistic chip on your shoulder.

Women are their own downfall. Whenever you ask them why are you single ” I’m looking for a nice honest guy”. Well open your eyes bi**h, there are loads of nice honest guys but women would never give them a chance for whatever reason…
– Mr Patel, London, 14/2/2012 6:54
It’s a mystery. But maybe the word ‘b***h may be putting them off?

Women do not need a man? But wait until they have a puncture on their car. That is when the tears start and we men fall for it. Why not? I did and was married for 50 years until my wife was taken up to Heaven. I would love to change a wheel for a damsel in distress.

Women are their own downfall. Whenever you ask them why are you single ” I’m looking for a nice honest guy”. Well open your eyes bi**h, there are loads of nice honest guys but women would never give them a chance for whatever reason…

Flying solo and love it. Saves me a fortune at valentines!

What a crock. Valentines Day is an industry day. It’s nothing about love. If it’s about true, undying love and respect, why isn’t everyday Valentines Day – which it should be by rights, no? Fool you for buying the cards, the inflated-priced meals, roses and chocolates etc.

It sucks being alone any day, least of all Valentines :'(

Purely anecdotal but i have a lot of single divorced male mates living the single sleep around life who will be unlikely to commit after round one of being shafted in the divorce courts and have met lots of women separate to find a man who will commit after being on the other side of the coin. I am lucky enough to have now met a woman who didn’t take advantage of her ex hubby on the way out and she is my Miss Perfect. Happy Valentine darling!

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