Spiralling crime and anti-social behaviour is conclusively linked to dysfunctional family lifestyles in which the father is absent. Is the downgrading of men linked to family breakdown? In recent decades society has gone through change more radical than political revolution.
Traditional fathers were respected heads of household and main providers. There were instances in which this responsibility was abused but overall the family unit worked well.
Growing boys today are much less involved with mature males. Boys’ interest groups have disappeared and male teachers are notable by their absence. Young men reach maturity unsure as to their gender role as they emerge from a largely female chrysalis. Some have never known a father.
Young men were once guided by alpha males in manly values, honour, education, martial valour, worldview experience, sport, the arts and sciences. They aspired to political leadership that carried with it duty and responsibility. Who do boys have to inspire them these days? Over-paid prima donna sportsmen and over-rated television celebrities.
Boys were once taught to respect the fairer sex; the latter responded by displaying feminine traits. It is increasingly difficult to separate the sexes by appearance, mannerisms or interests.
Until recently a boy reached maturity having been mentored by a father who instilled male virtues. This would be complemented by a boy being educated by male teachers. Instilled in callow youth was self-discipline; fairness in sports, how to endure hardship. Boys would be encouraged to show respect for others and the importance of self-respect, self-worth. Youngsters would be inspired to achieve according to their ability. As lads matured they were given masculine examples from which they might draw inspiration and wisdom.
There were strong elements of duty and self-worth; personal responsibility was valued. To pass the buck would be considered unmanly, but unmanliness is now a life choice. Where are those who should be setting good examples; politicians come to mind? Their abysmal standards of personal behaviour are equally contemptible and disreputable as those of any footloose father traipsing from one sink estate to another.
What has taken the place of earlier generations once inspired by explorers, sportsmen, entertainers who could actually play a musical instrument? True heroes were explorers, servicemen, civil engineers, underpaid sportsmen, authors, cultural achievers, and aggressively successful entrepreneurs.
By the 1960s the fabric of society’s structure was stretched to its limits. Values and tradition were questioned. It became de rigueur to rebel, to mock standards, deny authority, challenge tradition, and amuse oneself with incivility and the profane; to question and push moral boundaries.
Today the traditional role of husband and father is constantly undermined. The once head of household has become a derisory figure rather than a fulcrum of respect. Television sit-coms depict father as hapless, immoral or an aproned feminised fuss-pot.
Today’s male is ridiculed in ways that if applied to an ethnic group would lead to indignation and legislation. Employed in their traditional male environment men’s jobs are taken under the guise of affirmative action.
Elderly men once reminisced about old comradeships, male bonding and masculine pursuits. There were gender specific trades, shared experiences with lifelong friendships forged. What will the young men of today muse over when they are old? When those concerned saw the dangers they were satirised mercilessly.
In matrimonial or child custody courts men have become superfluous to requirements. Men have become the outcasts of society. If men became feckless and much less masculine than they once were, if men avoid commitment of any kind, was it their choice to become so or were they made so by changing conventions?
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