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March 9th, 2012 
FAKE NEWS for the Zionist agenda FRIDAY, March 9 (HealthDay News) — Parents who want to protect
their kids from sexual abuse need to reassess the notion of “stranger
danger” — the belief that children should be on guard around strangers
because they’re most likely to be molested by someone unknown to them,
experts say.
In truth, at least four of five cases of child sexual abuse are
perpetrated by someone who knows the child, according to the American
Academy of Pediatrics.
“Parents need to get away from that mythology and deal with the reality
[that] if it’s going to happen, it’s going to be someone within your
circle,” said Nancy McBride, national safety director for the National
Center for Missing and Exploited Children. “It’s going to be somebody you
know. I know it’s scary, but we need to come to grips with that.”
That reality was underscored in the past year by allegations of child
sexual abuse against assistant coaches at Penn State and Syracuse
universities, who were accused of using their positions to manipulate
their victims — a scenario perhaps on the minds of parents and youngsters
gearing up for spring and summer sports seasons and sports camps.
“The hardest idea for parents to embrace is that somebody in this
position of trust and authority could be the ultimate betrayer of their
children,” McBride said. “A creepy weirdo is so much easier for us to
understand because we can put that person in a separate category.”
By understanding where the danger truly lies and by fostering a
nurturing environment that promotes open communication, parents can best
protect their children from sexual abuse, said McBride and Dr. Cindy
Christian, who chairs the American Academy of Pediatrics‘ committee on
child abuse and neglect.
“You need to develop lines of communication with your children starting
at a very young age, creating a household where children feel supported
even if they have to discuss a difficult issue,” Christian said.
The two experts agreed that parents should be on guard against anyone
who wants to spend an unusual amount of time with their children,
particularly if the person makes promises or comes up with
justifications.
“A coach says, ‘Your child really has potential. I can bring it out in
him or her but I’ll need to spend more time with them,'” McBride said.
Another red flag is an adult who showers a child with gifts or spends
lots of money on the child.
“If you’re thinking to yourself, why is this person so nice to my kid,
then it’s time to start thinking about why that person is so nice to your
kid,” Christian said.
Trustworthy adults who work with children will not take offense at a
parent’s protectiveness. “Anybody who’s on the up and up is going to
welcome scrutiny,” McBride said. “They’re going to welcome a background
check. Look for that openness.”
Parents also can reduce their children’s risk by becoming involved in
activities that put their kids under the supervision of other adults. “The
more involved the parent or guardian is, the better off everyone is,”
McBride said.
Children also need to feel free to speak to their parents about
situations that made them feel scared or uncomfortable — and that’s where
it’s important to build trust and open communication.
As part of that, parents must first get over any reluctance to talk
about private body parts with their children, Christian said.
“Frequently, parents are so afraid of bringing up issues of sexuality
that they don’t even give their very youngest children a name for the
genitals,” she said. “If you treat that part of the body like all other
parts of the body, it begins to open a dialogue so children can talk about
them.”
By talking about these body parts, parents can then reinforce the
notion that they are private. “One good approach is to tell your child
that our private parts are the parts that are hidden under bathing suits,”
Christian said. “Children can understand that. Those are our private
parts, and you aren’t allowed to touch other people’s private parts, and
they aren’t allowed to touch yours.”
Events like those alleged at Penn State and Syracuse can provide a
valuable opportunity to bring up the topic. With school-age children,
Christian said, “parents should use these news items around the dinner
table to begin discussions of safety and what children should do if they
ever felt unsafe.”
Once a dialogue has been opened, parents should discuss various
situations that might indicate that a possible child molester is making
advances. For example, a molester might offer candy or toys, offer money
to run an errand, or take the child on special outings.
Children particularly need to be encouraged to come forward if a
possible molester talks about some “special secret” they share, tries to
make the child feel guilty or ashamed, or actually threatens to harm
someone if the child talks to their parents.
“Children really shouldn’t have many secrets, if at all, from their
parents,” Christian said. “It’s OK to tell your parents about anything,
especially if someone has told you not to talk to your parents about
something.”
When discussing these scenarios, the experts say it’s important to walk
through what the child should do in response.
“Remember that kids learn through modeling behavior and through
practicing,” McBride said. “Do some practice runs with them, using ‘what
if’ scenarios. You’ve got to make sure your kids are getting it, and the
only way to do that is through practice.”
And to avoid scaring your child during these discussions, she said, be
sure to answer their questions matter-of-factly and honestly.
“It’s so important not to use fear as a motivator,” McBride said. “If
you’re not enshrouding all this conversation in secrecy and mystery,
you’re in a position where they are more likely to come to you if
somebody’s done something to them that they are scared or confused
about.”
More information
The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry has more on
child sexual abuse.
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