Hundreds of children adopted after being abused have lives turned upside down as natural parents use Facebook track them down

January 5th, 2012

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John Stevens

Last updated at 9:08 AM on 5th January 2012

Adopted children are having their lives thrown into chaos by Facebook messages from birth parents who neglected or abused them when they were younger, charities have warned.

A big increase in unsolicited contact from parents who track down children who were taken into care for safeguarding has led to serious disruptions in the adoption process.

The two leading adoption charities have voiced deep concerns that parents flouting guidelines are causing a breakdown in the relationships between some children and their adoptive families.

Torn apart: Adoptive families have been disrupted and even broken up by unsolicited contact from birth parents (picture posed by models)

In some cases children have run away from home without knowing their full history after being lured back to their birth parents by the Facebook messages.

Many of the children were not cared for properly by their parents because they were taking drugs, or were physically or sexually abused.

Jonathan Pearce, chief executive of Adoption UK, said that unplanned contact through Facebook has become the biggest problem that adopted children are now facing as teenagers.

‘Unplanned and unsupported communication, contact and reunions between adoptive and birth families via Facebook and other social networking sites has already had a dramatic effect on adoption,’ he said.

‘This will only increase in the future and will mean a radical rethink of how we arrange and support adoptions from care.’

The law at present only allows adopted children to apply for their birth certificate and access to court records when they are 18, or 16 in Scotland.

They are given counselling beforehand and if contact between them and their birth parents takes place, it is done in a planned way.

Birth parents are not entitled to access records.

Mr Pearce said that it is now necessary to prepare children in advance of possible unplanned contact from their birth parents.

‘Currently adopted children tend to be told a rose-tinted version of what really happened,’ he told The Times.

‘Something closer to the truth will better protect and prepare children for the destabilising effects of unplanned contact, which often happens at a key stage in their adolescence.’

A study by the British Association for Adoption and Fostering found that 53 per cent of adopted children have used unofficial means, such as Facebook, to trace their birth parents. A quarter said that this had been unsettling.

In one case a brother and sister returned to their mother, who they were taken from as toddlers, and stopped all contact with their adoptive parents.

In another case, adoptive parents said their daughter started smoking, drinking and sleeping around after her life became derailed following contact from her birth family.

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Of course if your children were taken away from you, on the false pretext that they were being abused, which is what happened in the case of Mark Nicky Webster, then Facebook offers you the chance to put your side of the story to your children, who were taken away from you.

– Emma. D, Somewhere only I know, 05/1/2012 11:44

When an adoption is forced without the parents consenting, there is bound to be problems. The fact that the biological parents have never met the perspective adopters does nothing to cause the biological parents to feel confident that their children will be well looked after. The single letter a year from an adoptive parent to the biological parent (if there is a letter and it’s not delayed/lost/with held) might read positively and optimistically but if that isn’t backed up with some sort of experience of having met the perspective adopters, the good intentions may be diluted.
In addition, biological parents dispute a fair bit of the material used in family courts. Family courts are held in secret and some evidence is difficult to challenge by biological parents. The evidence is often opinionated rather than factual. When adoptions are forced and the biological parents can’t contest their innocence. The assessments tend to be one sided. Parents give up now to find their child later

– Ian, London, 05/1/2012 11:42

– Mowdiwarp, Huddersfield, 05/1/2012 09:23 – what a ridiculous comment, it’s like saying close all schools because of bullying, I personally have a greater relationship with my world dispersed family and loved ones via facebook, it has been a great addition to our family spread over three continents through work, emigration and travel, so keep you niave, false blanket statements to yourself. Everyone on FB I know personally or is a relative, facebook is not some great evil, like anything, it takes personal, responsible common sense to get the best from it, you can’t account for idiots, but you can easily avoid them.

– Emma, Staffs, 05/1/2012 11:35

Maybe a factor is the way children are seized by social services and the secret Family Courts put them up for adoption.
Very occasionally we are allowed to see one of these cases ,but there must be tens of thousands of them and as the children reach an age when they can make their own decisions we may find a huge scandal will be revealed.
Social workers seem to resemble members of a strange cult rather than a profession and their judgement as to who is a fit parent and who is not seems rather subjective as the case of Victoria Climbie and Baby Peter showed. They were left to be murdered while others have been removed from their homes for very dubious reasons, as anyone who follows the journalist Christopher Booker will know.

– James J, London, 05/1/2012 11:29

The Birth “patents” even go as far as giving the children unusual names to make them easier to trace in the future.

– littlem, Manchester, 05/1/2012 11:23

I’ve always believed the most important thing with adopted children is to be honest with them right from the start. Give them as much information as they can handle for their age, in stages, so by the time they’re 12 they know it all. It has to be given in bite size chunks, don’t unload the whole sorry tale at once. But they must enter their teens knowing who they are and why they were adopted. They must be able to unload their feelings about this too. Then…..when the dastardly parents make contact the child is equipped with the knowledge to deal with it.
– Pam, UK, 05/01/2012 10:41
I agree Pam, unfortunately the problem is managing the contact if the birth parent basically cheats and makes contact via Facebook or another social networking media. Even at the grand old age of 18 a large amount of people wouldn’t be ready for the needy nature of the “parent” they would meet.

– littlem, Manchester, 05/1/2012 11:19

Firstly, people should be more open and honest with their kids, as long as there is love who cares what circumstances brought you together and you could avoid an unpleasant surprise (bound to find out at some point).
Secondly, there is an age limit to facebook so young children shouldn’t be exposed to this anyway.
Thirdly, you can block any unwanted contacts, its as simple as clicking a button and you could use facebook as evidence should an abusive parent persist (quite helpful actually).

– Amy, Epsom, Surrey, 05/1/2012 11:05

Old-style adoption was best…complete confidentiality until the child reached 18 when either he or she could find out about natural parents or the natural parents could find out about them…and I should know… If you’ve had a baby who has been adopted, back off and leave them alone. If they want to search for you when they reach adulthood, it should be their decision and theirs alone.

– Reubenene, Somewhere In The World, 05/1/2012 11:01

Very true and this not saying anything bad about absent fathers should stop too. The truth is these adults let their children down, and dressing it up as something else so as not to hurt the child’s feeling is madness. Children understand some people behave badly, mummy/daddy wasnt ready is a lot of nonsense, they behaved bably and that is that.

– jenna, uk, 05/1/2012 11:00

I won’t give my real mother the time of day. Cyber bullying your daughter, handing her phone number around so she can be harassed at 4 in the morning is not a good way to talk her round. Sending her death threats simply because your name wasn’t mentioned in a funeral service even though the minister had been asked to mention them wasn’t a good move. Telling friends that daughter is a prostitute and will do anything for a tenner isn’t very nice either. Finally, MOTHER (not that you were ever a mother to me) you will not talk me round by blaming me for my abuse. You left me in the clutches of that evil man, you took me to the doctors with an STD when I was just 6 years old but you never looked out for me. You’re a scumbag and NOTHING whatsoever I did when I was 7 is to blame for you being one of the most evil women on the planet. Rot in hell, I hate you!!!

– Totally Jaded, In a place where the sun never shines!, 05/1/2012 10:49

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