Britain’s youngest mother of a Down’s Syndrome child proves her doubters wrong

  • Catherine Moore discovered her son Tyler had Down’s Syndrome the day after he was born
  • Says the arrival of her son, now aged three, turned her life around for better

06:38 EST, 17 September 2012


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10:15 EST, 17 September 2012

A teenager who became the youngest mother in Britain to a Down’s Syndrome baby after falling pregnant aged 15 has spoken of her pride in proving her doubters wrong.

Despite being just a child herself, single teen mother Catherine Moore, now 19, refused to give her baby up after learning he had Down’s Syndrome, vowing to raise him herself despite concerns that she wouldn’t cope.

Recent figures show up to 90 per cent of Down’s babies are aborted – a figure which Catherine finds distressing.

Catherine Moore, who fell pregnant at the age of 15 and then went on to have her son Tyler who had Down’s Syndrome, loves every second of being his mother

Now as her son starts pre-school aged three she wants to pay tribute to the little boy that, far from ruining her life, she says may even have saved it.

Catherine, from Maghera, Northern Ireland, said: ‘Everyone said I wouldn’t be able to cope and my life was over if I kept Tyler.

‘But they were wrong, having Tyler was the best thing that ever happened to me. He changed my life for the better and I am so grateful to have him. 

‘I was going off the rails but he saved me. We are a team and I am so very proud of him.

‘When he came along I was just a child myself and suddenly I had a child of my own with special needs. But I never once thought of giving him up.

‘He needed me and I needed him, it was as simple as that. I could never be without him and he is quite simply the most wonderful thing ever to happen to me, he really is.

‘I hate it when people say they are sorry he has Down’s because I am not. It’s who Tyler is and I would not change him for the world. I’m so glad I had a Down’s baby.’

Catherine’s mother Georgina said her heart sank when she heard the news but is very impressed by how mature her daughter has been

Catherine wasn’t initially told about Tyler’s condition and when her mother broke the news to her, she vowed to love him even more

Catherine was weeks away from her GCSE exams when aged 15 she learned she was pregnant after splitting up with her boyfriend.

She said: ‘When my period was late I went straight to my mum and told her.’

Mother Georgina McClure, 39, said: ‘When Catherine told me her period was late my heart sank. I bought her a test and watched the line turn blue. We both started crying.

‘I took her to see a doctor who talked through the options. But Catherine refused a termination. She wanted her baby and as a mother I agreed to stand by her even though I was worried for her future.’ 

Because she was so young Catherine had monthly scans. Speaking about her pregnancy, she said: ‘Mum  came with me and we both cried seeing this little bean on the screen. I couldn’t believe I really had a baby inside me. Suddenly it felt so real.’

Catherine was just 15 when she fell pregnant but has handled the situation with great maturity and loves being a mother

Catherine spent her 16th birthday shopping for a cot and at her 28 week scan found out she was having a boy.

Georgina said: ‘She was so focused on being a good mum. I was impressed with her attitude. She was reading about birth and parenthood all the time on the internet and I wondered if maybe with my help she would be able to finish her studies.’

But there was another surprise in store for the family.

The morning after her daughter had given birth at 36 weeks to a seemingly perfect baby, Georgina received a call from the hospital.

‘It was a midwife and she just said she was sorry but she had some bad news. Tests had shown my grandson Tyler had Down’s Syndrome.

Family: Catherine says she worried she would never find love but fiance Nathan ‘adores Tyler’

Catherine’s mother Georgina has supported her daughter and Tyler and they are like a team

‘I was shocked and utterly devastated for Catherine. Because she was so young they hadn’t told her in case she didn’t understand. They wanted me to come back and do it.

‘I remember thinking to myself “if she’s too young even to know what it is how on earth is she going to cope?”

‘It didn’t seem possible. I always thought it was older mothers at risk of having Down’s babies and Catherine was young. I wondered if there had been a mix up,’ she said.

But when Georgina told her daughter the news, she reacted surprisingly well.

Shrugging, she said: ‘Is that all?’ Then she scooped him up out of the crib and cuddled him.

‘Tears rolled down my face. I was proud of how strong her mothering instinct was already yet frightened for what the future held for them both,’ said Georgina.

Catherine was just a child herself when she fell pregnant and the tender age of fifteen

Catherine added: ‘I was panicking that she was going to say he was seriously ill. I was terrified so when mum said he had Down’s I actually felt relieved.

‘I’d watched the EastEnders storyline with Billy and Honey’s baby so I knew what it was and I wasn’t upset at all. I just knew then he needed me more than ever and whatever I needed to do for my son I would do it.

Scans showed Tyler also had two heart murmers and a problem with his left heart valve.

They warned he might need surgery and constant checks and care but Catherine remained unfazed.

In fact everything they threw at her she vowed to do her best. She learned Tyler would have delayed walking and speech as well as impaired vision and hearing.

Catherine said: ‘It was daunting, yes, but I knew that somehow we would manage. We had to manage, he was my baby and I was his mother and I knew it was my job to manage whatever life threw at the two of us.

‘It never crossed my mind for a second to walk away from Tyler. I had loved him before he was born and I loved him even more in my arms.’

Catherine is now engaged to partner Nathan Woods, 22.

‘When I told him I was a teenage single mum with a Down’s Syndrome baby I thought he would run a mile but he didn’t,’ she smiles.

The couple are planning to wed next year with Tyler as page boy.

Catherine said: ‘I never thought I would be lucky enough to find love. We are quite a package but Nathan isn’t fazed at all. He adores Tyler.’

Catherine is now nineteen and says that walking away from Tyler was a thought that never crossed her mind

The couple are planning to wed next year with Tyler as page boy

With Catherine’s help Tyler has met all his milestones for children with Down’s. He was crawling at one and started to learn sign language to communicate.

‘I wanted to be a vet and maybe one day I will go back and sit my exams but for the moment being Tyler’s mummy is rewarding enough.

‘Nobody could have prepared me for the challenges of raising a baby with Down’s, but then they couldn’t have explained the joy either.

‘Having him wasn’t the end of my life it was just the start.

‘It breaks my heart reading about women aborting Down’s babies. They are a real joy and if I can make a success of it, anyone can.’

 

 

The comments below have not been moderated.

There will be many who criticize Catherine for getting pregnant at such a young age but I think she has shown astonishing maturity in coping with a situation that has defeated many adults and is to be admired for that. What a lovely little boy Tyler seems.
– Annie, Clevedon, 17/9/2012 13:14 Being irresponsible enough to have an unplanned pregnancy, especially when the parents (BOTH of them) have no means of supporting the child IS something to be critical of, or at the very least is not something to be celebrated. That this young girl has coped well and made a good mother is something to be applauded. It isn’t about being ‘for’ or ‘against’ the girl in the story. Like most of us she is not perfect, but she is doing her best.

emma
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london, United Kingdom,
17/9/2012 20:30

¿I hate it when people say they are sorry he has Down¿s because I am not. It¿s who Tyler is and I would not change him for the world. I¿m so glad I had a Down¿s baby.’……………………….My goodness, how a young girl of this age can speak such words of love for her child is amazing…..Just wish that all mothers would think as much of their children…..Truly a loving heart. Best wishes for the future.

Ted
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Teddington, United Kingdom,
17/9/2012 20:29

Being a mum is hard work at any age, with any kind of baby so well done to Catherine 🙂

Sairycake
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Poole,
17/9/2012 20:28

God bless the little chap and his family too.

Mick Walker
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Weston Turville,
17/9/2012 20:23

The whole point of testing is to have healthy babies If not you must fund them yourselves. Good luck but not for me

– Concertante , Venus, 17/9/2012 19:40

You hideous person…that is NOT the reason for testing – we do not have obligatory abortions for babies who have disabilities – thank god I don’t live in your world. I would much rather live in one with Tyler in it.

Lynne
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Amersham,
17/9/2012 20:20

DS children are so happy, they are also very loving and caring. He is adorable and she is absolutely right to cherish him for what he is with no regrets for him.
Most children give their parents sleepless nights and sometimes endless worry and stress, being a parent is no picnic!

Britexpat
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Dubai,
17/9/2012 20:20

Thank you Catherine, for putting it out there that us young mums aren’t all terrible! You seem to have a good head on your shoulders, and your little boy is just perfect.

Tilly
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Burton, United Kingdom,
17/9/2012 20:19

There’s only one word for him. Gorgeous

glasgowross1
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Glasgow, United Kingdom,
17/9/2012 20:17

Some of the comments of here are from some truely twisted weirdos

cricky
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northampton,
17/9/2012 20:17

I am disgusted at the negative comments on here! All I see is a loving mother, loving grandmother and the most beautiful little boy I have ever seen and the picture of him wearing glasses and on the drums has to go as the cheekiest photo and I love it. I think mum is a very strong person and Tyler is a very lucky young man and so what if he is going to need help for the rest of his life! We as a nation are judged by how we treat those who need our help and because he has Down’s dont dismiss that he cannot do it himself and he will probably will if mum has anything to do with it as god knows we have able bodied people who are lazy and sponging of the state and yet what do I read that some people begrude the right for this child to live? You should hang your heads in shame as to me he as perfect as he is meant to be and for those who leave negative comments I wouldn’t give you the time of day…yet little Tyler would melt my heart everytime and leave me the better person for it.

Susan
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England,
17/9/2012 20:09

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