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January 23rd, 2012 
FAKE NEWS for the Zionist agenda
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Becky Barrow, Business Correspondent
Last updated at 8:38 AM on 23rd January 2012
Bread-winning wives who earn more than their stay-at-home husbands are crippled by guilt about ‘abandoning’ their children, research reveals today.
About 1.4million families in Britain rely on a high-earning woman whose husband or boyfriend is raising their children full-time, or works part-time.
In this dramatic reversal of the traditional family set-up, four in ten mothers said they are ‘racked with guilt’ about leaving their children while they go out to work.
Stressed: Many working women find it painful to leave their children at home
The study of 1,200 mothers also reveals resentment among many bread-winning wives who feel they are ‘struggling to juggle it all’. One in five said they feel as if they have two full-time jobs because they also have to do the bulk of household chores when they get home.
One mother told the researchers: ‘I sometimes feel taken for granted. He puts his feet up the minute I get home and expects me to take over.’ Another said: ‘He says he does the housework but it is often half a job. I’m still expected to cook the meals and wash up.’
And a third mother said: ‘The children are much closer to my husband than me. I shouldn’t resent it but I can’t help it. It makes me so upset.’
According to the latest Office for National Statistics figures, record numbers of mothers are working full-time despite having a child as young as six months old. There are 2.25million women, whose youngest or only child is under the age of four, who have a full-time job. There were 1.9million in 2003.
Jealous: Some women feel resentment that their husbands are closest to the children
The issue is being exacerbated by the fact the average working woman in her 20s earns more than a man the same age. It means her salary is higher than her husband’s at the age when many women have their first child, typically 29.
The crippling cost of childcare as well as super-size mortgages means many couples have no choice but to stick with the higher earner’s salary when deciding who should stay at home.
Jill Kirby, author of The Price of Parenthood, said: ‘Women are increasingly changing their traditional roles, perhaps because their husband has lost his job or because she earns more than him. But they are not finding it easy.’
ONS figures show that, in 1997, men earned 5.9 per cent more than women in their 20s. In 2005, women earned more for the first time. By 2010, they earned 2.1 per cent more, rising to 3.6 per cent today.
It is unlikely to be a coincidence that the number of mothers working full-time has risen at the same time. In 1997, there were 4.5million such mothers with children under the age of 19, rising to 5.02million this year.
Yet despite the feelings of guilt, just 5 per cent of bread-winning wives want to change places with their partner, the survey by insurers Aviva found.
Spokesman Louise Colley said: ‘It’s possible that some women are making their lives harder than necessary by trying to do everything.’
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I hate the way women are often penalized either being selfish for working or lazy for staying at home. I will be the first to admit that it is probably more suitable for the mother to stay home or work part time while the children or little but I see nothing wrong with stay at home dads looking after the children and home it just more ideal the other way around. I will say the first two examples, with the wives expected to take over, cook and wash up for their house husbands seems unfair. If men choose to be the homemakers then they should assume the same responsibilities as a housewife, just as breadwinner wife should assume the same duties as breadwinner husband. I myself was raised in home parents who both worked and shared the division of the domestic duties, cooking and childcare. It’s all about compromise and working together as a team.
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If you can’t afford to have kids don’t have them………….simples…………
– dippy, greatwideyonder, 23/1/2012 17:16 **** Why should anyone take notice of the advice given by someone who quotes from a cartoon meerkat!!!
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Looking at a lot of the comments on here today, it strikes me how the stay at home mums have made personal, derogatory, assumptious comments about working mothers. But working mothers have said nothing derogatory about stay at home mums (apart from those who knock out kid after kid and live off benefits), they have merely tried to explain why they have to work to provide for their family. Don’t forget, most of the working mums don’t have partners who stay at home to look after the baby (like the article says) – in most cases both parents are out working because they can’t afford not to, or they are single mothers who have no choice but to work. So maybe, although most working mothers would probably rather stay at home if they had the choice, this actually proves how small-minded you become when your whole life revolves around the children and you have nothing else outside. Just saying
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If you can’t afford to have kids don’t have them………….simples…………
– dippy, greatwideyonder, 23/1/2012 17:16 Well the reality is that more and more young women men are making that choice – burdened with university debt, no decent well paid jobs/no jobs, unaffordable house prices, many of them are realising that having children is an unffordable choice/dream. There are also many young women who have watched their Mothers generation run themselves ragged trying to do it all and have no intention of putting themselves thro the same nightmare. However, this will be demographically devastating for our society as we will end up with a huge old population and no young people to support those in old age. It is what is called a dying society and as a society we are already dying.
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I did not return to work straight after my children were born, but my mother helped me to finish a university course by baby-sitting. I studied when they were asleep or in school, or stayed up at night. When I did go back to work, I was stressed at juggling a job and taking the full role of home-maker. My husband was traditional when it suited him (ie he expected his dinner on the table, even though we were doing the same job and worked the same hours) and modern when it suited him (I married you, but I’m not responsible for keeping you). I never had the choice of staying home.
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I think its a real shame that more mothers have to work full time or worse when both parents work. My wife works as a childminder and i have seen first hand the pressure it puts on everyone involved and even worse the effect it has on the children. Mothers who pick up their children have difficulty understand certain and often harmless behaviour that stay at home mums would experience and deal with accordingly. Often when both parents work there are discipline issues and can result in children being spoilt probably due to the guilt emotions. We have definitely taken a wrong turn in society when it comes to raising children IMHO- rob, southend, You’re right Rob we have taken the wrong turn. Many mums are now forced to go out to work for economic reasons. I was such a Mother my son was affected badly by me having to work – attention seeking bad behaviour tears at bedtime about wanting Mummy to pick him up from school not the childminder. Sad really sad! We both missed out so much.
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If you can’t afford to have kids don’t have them………….simples…………
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As a bread-winning father of 2 I also feel guilty about not having more time to spend with my children. What’s being a woman got to do with it?
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I think its a real shame that more mothers have to work full time or worse when both parents work. My wife works as a childminder and i have seen first hand the pressure it puts on everyone involved and even worse the effect it has on the children. Mothers who pick up their children have difficulty understand certain and often harmless behaviour that stay at home mums would experience and deal with accordingly. Often when both parents work there are discipline issues and can result in children being spoilt probably due to the guilt emotions. We have definitely taken a wrong turn in society when it comes to raising children IMHO
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@ – Truthwinsout, northeast, 23/1/2012 16:45 Why do you keep posting the same message? Are you so desperate to prove that stay-at-home mothers have the hardest job in the world? (Btw, what are your kids doing while you’re on here posting the same message over and over? Keeping a close eye on them are you)?
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